I like good cheer. But please do not wish me “Merry Christmas.” It’s wonderful if you celebrate it, but I don’t — and I don’t feel like explaining that to you. It’s lonely to be reminded a thousand times every winter that the dominant American cultural event occurs without me.
To write “I don’t feel like explaining” while doing just that is like saying “yes” while shaking your head “no”. Ioffe brims with irrepressible loxism that she certainly does feel like expressing. It’s just that she also feels that she can’t be completely honest about why. Ioffe could have said, “As a professional member of the ruling tribe, I feel entitled to spell out how you mindless goyim need to reorganize your society to suit me.” Instead she said:
When you are from a minority religion, you’re used to the fact that cabdrivers don’t wish you an easy fast on Yom Kippur. But it’s harder to get used to the oppressive ubiquity of a holiday like Christmas. “This is always the time of year I feel most excluded from society,” one Jewish friend told me. Another told me it made him feel “un-American.”
To say it’s off-putting to be wished a merry holiday you don’t celebrate — like someone randomly wishing you a happy birthday when the actual date is months away — is not to say you hate Christmas. It is simply to say that, to me, Julia Ioffe, it is alienating and weird, even though I know that is not intended. I respond: “Thanks. You, too.” But that feels alienating and weird, too, because now I’m pretending to celebrate Christmas. It feels like I’ve verbally tripped, as when I reply “You, too!” to the airport employee wishing me a good flight. There’s nothing evil or mean-spirited about any of it; it’s just ill-fitting and uncomfortable. And that’s when it happens once. When it happens several times a day for a month, and is amplified by the audiovisual Christmas blanketing, it’s exhausting and isolating. It makes me feel like a stranger in my own land.
Ioffe admits she’s saying what she’s saying because she’s a jew, she just adds the usual thick layer of reality-inverting jew victim narrative on top. Sure, she’s a member of the most privileged and powerful tribe in the world, but they’re a MINORITY. That makes you goyim the real problem. You make jews feel UNCOMFORTABLE. You make jews feel like STRANGERS. You make jews feel OPPRESSED, ALIENATED, EXHAUSTED, ISOLATED. And worst of all, you just being yourselves forces jews to pretend they’re not jews. Which is why they write articles like this. Every day of the year may be Holocaust Day, but every now and again jews need a different pretext to jewsplain how their jewy hostility toward the goyim is really all the goyim’s fault.
When I tried to explain this on Twitter, I earned thousands of attacks: people vindictively wishing me a Merry Christmas, vicious and ad hominem condemnations accusing me of being angry, whiny, impolite, self-centered, ungrateful, sad and, in general, a bad person. (“We’ve already got a reputation for being miserable f—s,” one Jewish commenter wrote, “let’s not make it worse.”)
I find this surge of hostility baffling. To voluntarily opt out of Christmas, apparently, is an act of aggression against Christmas itself.
What Ioffe didn’t want to explain, at first, was that she was thinking and speaking as a jew. Then the vindictive goyim attacked her for no reason. So now she’s trying to jewsplain. “As a jew, I’m the real victim here. Stop being so hostile you filthy mindless goyim.”
There’s something a little deranged about taunting someone of another faith with “Merry Christmas” after they’ve politely asked for a recusal. It feels out of step with what Christians say this holiday — and Christianity — is all about: peace, love and mercy. It feels, instead, to be of a piece with the warring tribalism that has consumed our politics.
How, I was asked, are people meant to know what you celebrate? They’re not. Which is why my wish, this holiday season, is for people not to make assumptions about others, to put themselves in others’ shoes, to respect others as they wish to be respected, to respond with kindness even when they disagree, to live and let live. I heard about a guy who used to say all that stuff, and apparently his birthday is coming up. Why not honor him that way?
You know what’s deranged? Trying to paint yourself as a victim while telling others they annoy you and should change their behavior to please you. It’s disgusting to contemplate, but it isn’t difficult to understand this victim/control-freak mentality. In individuals the symptoms are commonly described as antisocial personality disorder. Such individuals feel no empathy for others, but they understand how to manipulate others to feel empathy for them.
Though Ioffe lamely attempts to personalize her story, she isn’t standing on her Washington Post soapbox as an aggrieved individual. She’s speaking as a member of her tribe, “from a minority religion”. That’s the key to her identity, the magic jew card that, in their minds, fills them with righteousness and moral authority. She may have no empathy for the Christians (by which she means Whites) whom she’s collectively complaining about, but clearly she understands how to moralize, to shamelessly exploit whatever sense of honor, respect, or kindness the gullible goyim will show her.
Furthermore, Ioffe has previously described just how self-aware she is about this, how she knows it has more to do with race and nation than religion:
Personally and not because I’m a pessimistic Soviet Jew– personally I was kind of glad to see the outpouring of antisemitism, because for a long time I was very frustrated by the discussion on kind of the liberal side of the political spectrum, where Jews, like Israel, were no longer seen as the underdog, no longer seen as the persecuted minority, in fact, this kind of scurrying line of anti-Semitic stereotype of us as the establishment, and people who run and control everything…. I had black friends, for example, black intellectuals who say, “Our issue is the more important one, we are the persecuted minority, you’re part of the establishment, you are white,” and to me seeing that reaction, that seeing that anti-semitic reaction that came with Trump I think got those people to kind of see us again as the minority… I think that people are recognizing that we’re still kind of in the same boat…I’m seeing it as a little reminder to people.
Ioffe doesn’t see jews as White, she sees jews as victims of Whites, “in the same boat” with other non-Whites, against Whites. She likes the “persecuted minority” narrative, the jews’ oldest, biggest lie. She promotes it, and is glad to see others influenced by it, because she sees the value in that for herself and her tribe, not because she believes it’s true.